Friday, April 7, 2017

A New Day Begins





Someone turned on the lights. I hear a voice calling my name.  Sleepily, I turned over and squinted into the light.  I couldn't see the face, but I heard the voice.  It was man.  "I need to test your glucose level, dear," he said.
"What time is it?", I muttered.
"It's 5:45 in the morning." was the reply.  I was a little perturbed at being awakened so early, but I stuck my hand out from under the blanket.  The was a small painful prick of my index finger and it was over.  At least, I thought it was.  No sooner than the nurse left, another person came into my room.  It was the phlebotomist, or as most patients call the, the vampires.  It seemed that the blood they took the night before showed elevated levels of something, so they needed to run more tests to evaluate my liver and kidney functions.
After she left, I was awake.  I looked around my room trying to take it all in.  My walls were beige, and the floor was a sickly gray color.  There was another bed in the room, but it was empty. All of my belongings were put into a closet.  I didn't have any of my toiletries. It was all at the front desk. I was overcome with a need to urinate.  The bathroom was beige, and the mirror above the sink was some kind of plastic bolted to the wall.  The shower curtain was connected to a tract on the ceiling.  Te shower itself seemed decent enough, although there weren't any shelves to put my things.
I put a hospital gown over my night shirt, and walked to the front desk,  I had to wait a few minutes because it was time for a shift change.  The daytime nurses and techs were going over last night's events.  One of the techs gestured in my direction.  I heard him tell the nurse that I wouldn't be any trouble.  When they finished talking one of the techs came up to me.  "What do you need, Miss Beverly?"  I told her I needed my soap, my toothbrush and toothpaste.
"May I also have a towel and washcloth?"  I said.  I hadn't bathed in over a week, and felt rather grimy.  She, Melanie was her name, got me my things and I said "Thank you."  I turned and noticed that some of the other patients were up.  I shuffled back to my room, closed the door and got undressed.
The shower was not hot, it was about body temperature.  But, the water felt good running down my back.  I washed up quickly and stepped into a puddle on the floor.  The shower curtain didn't keep the water in the stall like it was supposed to do.  I dried off, and put lotion on my body, which was covered in goose bumps.  I had to admit that I did feel a little more human.
I made my bed as I was supposed to do, and gathered up my wet towels and walked into the hall. This wasn't my first time here, so I remembered how things were done.  I found the bin for dirty linens and put my towels and washcloth inside.  I walked a little further down the hall to the common room.  One of the male techs said that breakfast would be up soon, and went up and down the hallways like the town crier announcing his news.
Breakfast consisted of scrambled eggs, bacon, oatmeal, orange juice and decaffeinated coffee.  The eggs were lukewarm, and the bacon was soggy from being in the steamer cart, but it wasn't awful.
I really missed my coffee.
After breakfast, we were allowed to go to the smoking room to have a cigarette.  The cigarettes were kept locked up, and you can only have 2 maximum.  If you didn't have your own, you might get lucky and get one from the community pack.  I packed mine, so I got 2 cigarettes and shuffled my way to the smoke room.  It was a dank little room where the walls were stained from the years of smoking/.
I didn't do any talking, I just looked down to the ground.  We had group therapy after this, so I would have to say something then.  I didn't want to talk to anyone about anything.  I just wanted to go back to bed.

Saturday, April 1, 2017

A Day in the Life





It was the birds I noticed first.  Chirping, cheeping, chittering, an endless symphony of birdsong.  It was too loud.  As I struggled to lift my head from the pillow, I realized something.  I was conscious.  I was still alive. "Shit", I said to no one in particular.
Why was I awake?  It wasn't supposed to be like this.  I took all my medications.  I should at least be in a coma, not lying in bed listening to the birds.  Those fucking, loud, obnoxious birds.  Now what was I supposed to do.  I got up and did the first thing I always do in the morning, I went to pee.
I checked the toilet bowl for blood, but didn't see anything.  My urine was it's normal hue.  Not even a little green.  Once I finished, I went back to my room.  It was about 10:30 AM.  That's a perfectly acceptable time to wake up if you have no place to go.  I was hungry, so I put my sweatpants on and meandered downstairs.
There she was at the kitchen table, going through the paper and drinking her coffee.  I supposed I should say something, but I didn't really know how to say it.  So, I just looked at her and blurted out "I think I should go to the hospital. I took all my pills last night".
I wasn't sure what to expect.  I mean how often does someone tell you that she tried to kill herself.  But my mom's face betrayed nothing. "Oh, Bev!" was all she said.  She hugged me and said "OK".
She fixed me something to eat, eggs I think. We didn't talk about it.  She didn't ask me why or anything.  I found that a bit odd, but I was kind of relieved.  I didn't feel like talking.  After I finished my breakfast, I went and threw some underwear, a pair of jeans, and some socks into a small suitcase.
We got to the hospital and I checked myself in.  I went into the emergency room exam room and waited for the nurse.  While I was waiting, it suddenly hit me.  What I was doing there and how it happened made me feel very tired all of a sudden.  Different people came in and out some to take blood, some to fill out paperwork.  The doctor was nice.  He was the one that asked me why.  I told him I wanted to die.  He asked my mom a couple of questions and patted me on the back.  He told me that he wanted to admit me as a psychiatric patient.  I agreed with that and so it goes.
The psych unit at the hospital was old and had paint the color of oatmeal.  I was in a wheelchair and an orderly was pushing it behind me.  We had to be buzzed in, because psych wards are always locked units.
I was wheeled past people of all kinds.  A lot of them were old people.  There were a couple of younger people, but what I noticed most of all, that I was the only black person there besides members of the staff.
I was checked into the unit. My picture was taken, I was body mapped, and a staff member went through my bag.  I kissed my mom goodbye, and she left.  I was shown to my room, and I immediately lay down on the bed and curled myself into a fetal position.  All I wanted to do was sleep.  They left me alone for the most part.  It was the weekend, and not much happens on the psych ward.  It wouldn't have made much difference to me if it was a weekday.  I lost track of days weeks ago.  Someone came and got me for dinner.  It was bland, high carb with little to recommend it.  I just picked at it, but I did like the fruit cup.

Friday, March 10, 2017

Depression Over (for now)




Well, here it is March 10th 2017.  I have finally pulled out of this depressive episode that left me bed-ridden.  This episode started on November 30th 2016.  That's a little over 3 months of lies, trickery and negative thoughts running through my head.  I probably should have been in the hospital for the better part of it.  I hit rock bottom.  I no longer cared for myself or anyone else.  I held the pill bottles in my hand on more than one occasion. 
But, I put them away, and managed to get through it.  I saw my doctor, my therapist and communicated with my support group.  I also have come to terms with the fact that I will have this disease for the rest of my life.  There is no cure.  So, I will have to battle the demons in my mind again.  I can only hope it will not be for a long time.
In the meantime, I am making plans.  I am actively seeking employment.  I have applied for 12 jobs.  I've heard back from 4.  Most of them thank me for applying, and they will get back to me.  I know I won't hear from them, but it's better than nothing.  There is a great job I would love if it existed.  I would love to be the office manager for Speak for Animals.  But, they run strictly on volunteer basis.
I have decided that I want to live on my own.  I have applied for housing assistance, but I am on the waiting list. 
I want a job that pays at least $35k per year, with health, dental, vision and a 401K plan.  That is not a fantasy to my way of thinking, but around here you'd think I was asking to be paid in gold.  I want enough money to have a nice clean apartment, pay my bills, and have food, cable, internet and some furniture.  Is that asking too much?  I don't think so.  I truly believe I am worth that much.
Oh boy! I almost forgot to tell you that I had lunch with someone.  I actually have a friend!  Her name is Susan, and she's near my age.  We had lunch at Panera Bread, and I had such a good time talking with her.  We talked about my illness mostly.  I don't mind talking about my illness, the more I talk about it the less power it has over me. 
I have to call my dad today.  He had an MRI on his hip last week.  He may need surgery.  If he does, then I am going up there to take care of him.  He'll tell me he doesn't need any help, but I don't care, I'm still going.  Hopefully, it won't be until next week or the week after.  I get my disability on the 15th, so it will have to wait until then.  
I know that the Michigan family will look out for him, but this time he is alone in the house without Gail, so he's going to need someone.  I won't pack a whole suitcase, just an extra pair of jeans and a couple of shirts and underwear.  Plus, I have to take my medication.  I love being around my dad, he is so easy going. Not like here,where I have to be on guard all the time.  I have been calling my aunt "the bitch" in my head.  I know it's terrible, but something about her I don't trust.  That's why I hardly talk to her.  She has a way of putting things that tear down my self esteem.
Well, I guess that's all for now.  It's Lent and I am gradually weaning myself off cigarettes.  I hope to be smoke free for Easter.  It will be a year on March 26th that I was baptized into the catholic faith. 
It's been a rocky road.  But, I am back to praying the rosary, and reading my bible everyday.  It brings with it a sense of peace. Maybe I should have become a nun.  Oh well, I guess not, because I have a feeling God is going to bring love into my life this year.  Can't wait to meet him, I hope he's tall.
Peace, Joy, Love - B

Thursday, February 23, 2017

The Lion Rages




There is a rage inside of me and I don't understand where it's coming from.  I wanted to hurt someone yesterday.  I wanted to feel the blood dripping from my hands.  I let curse words flow through my mouth like angry vomit.  I was irrational and out of control.  It scared me.
The day started out well enough.  I was in a pretty good mood.  Then, I took my mom to the doctor.  She had a 12:30 appointment.  We got there at 12:05.  I sat in the car listening to Sonatas and Soundscapes on the public radio station.  When she hadn't come out by 1:45, I went in to investigate.  She hadn't even been seen yet!!  Well, I lost it.  We ended up leaving without her being seen by the doctor.  She was just there for a follow-up visit, so it wasn't anything crucial.  
I, however, was boiling mad.  This is a good doctor, but 2 hours wait is ridiculous.  I ought to charge her for my time.  It would be different if this was the first time, but it has happened before on many occasions.  Yesterday, I just got fed up.
Then, one of my psych meds went from $10 to $55.  That was the absolute end.  I drove to the store like a wild woman, cursing everyone and everything.  I don't know why the price went up, and frankly I don't care.  I know it's my insurance company.  In addition to that, my psychiatrist does not accept my insurance, so I have to pay $70 a visit.  So, I either start over with a new doctor and therapist or eat it.  Right now, I am eating it, but I am going to have to cut down on my visits.  Which, given my present mental health, isn't a good idea.  
I started seeing a chiropractor and a massage therapist.  Let's see how the insurance roulette falls on these two things.  I'll probably get screwed on those also.  Quite frankly, I am sick of all this fucking bullshit.  I hate taking all this medicine.  I hate going to the doctor.  I hate being on disability.
I applied for a couple of part-time jobs to help make ends meet, but who wants a fat, dumpy, disabled person who hasn't worked since 2010.  I certainly wouldn't.   I hate myself,  I wish I had killed myself last week.  Then all this fucking nonsense would be over.
My aunt started squawking about the rent last week.  I want to tell her to go fuck herself and throw all my pill bottles and diabetic supplies at her.  Here's your fucking rent you dumpy bitch!! You don't want me here just say the word, I don't even like you you old cunt.  I'm only here because of my mom anyway.  I'll have to talk to my dad about living with him.  I don't forsee any problems, but you never know.  Maybe I'll end up homeless.  Living on the street, talking to myself.  One of the forgotten people.  
If I had a gun, there would be a murder suicide here.  Maybe not, maybe just murder.  I am not well.  Maybe I will send an email to my doctor.  I have to send one anyway about my ambien and klonopin.  I have had such trouble sleeping, that I have been taking 2 pills instead of one.  I'll be out soon, then I'll have nothing to help me sleep.  Of course, I could always drink some wine.  But, I can't afford that either.  
Life, right now, fucking sucks!! I don't know what kind of sick game God is playing with me, but I wish He would knock it off.  FUCK YOU!!!

Saturday, February 4, 2017

Acceptance and Hope




After careful deliberation and planning, I have abandoned the idea of taking my life.  It was pretty close there for the past week.  I have closed myself off to all human contact and communication.  I avoided touching people, I could not look anyone in the eye.  I truly wanted to die.  But something happened today that gave me a new perspective.  I went to confession for the first time in 2 months.
I told the priest of my pain and anguish and how I felt God had forsaken me.  He told me in very simple terms that it was me that failed to open my heart to God, and it's true.  I did not trust Him to answer my prayers.  He told me that God listens to our hearts and hears our sufferings.  Sometimes, however, God leaves us to carry our cross for our own good.  I am not exactly sure why God left me so over-burdened, but apparently he has a plan for my life.  It may be that it is my lot in life to suffer so that I may reach out to others and help them.  If that's what it is, I accept that.
So, I have decided to stop fighting the bipolar.  I will take each episode as it comes and do what I can to make it through.  Maybe my life will be a lesson to someone else with this horrible illness.  Maybe that person will look at me and know that through my darkest times, I did not give up.  Maybe I am supposed to be alive for that purpose.
Jesus did not promise us paradise on earth, but only in the next life when He returns.  Until then, I will just have to bide my time and reach out for little scraps of happiness.  I will try to face each day with expectation instead of dread.  If I can function that day, great! If not, I will try to fulfill my activities of daily living the best I can.  It's okay to sleep all day, and it's okay if I cry a lot.  There will be those kinds of days.  Truth be told, I am tired of trying to meet everyone's expectations of me.  I must learn to accept myself as I am and be satisfied.  I will try to participate in the world, but the world will have to just suck it up if I would rather be alone.  
I am still in a deep depressive episode, and I don't know when it will end.  I am trying to engage.  For instance, going to confession today was huge for me.  I just want to make it to mass tomorrow.  I will not be dressed well.  I'll be lucky to remember to brush my hair, but that is tomorrow's goal.  I will take my meds as prescribed and hope for the best.  That's all I have right now is hope.  My name is Beverly, and I have a mental illness.  I hope tomorrow is better than today.  Peace, Joy, Love - B

Monday, January 16, 2017

Shiny Happy People






Sometimes, well, a lot of times I look at people, and I wonder what their lives are like.  I see them with their happy faces, watch them with animated conversations, or just walking along.  I wonder where their going, where they've been, what their thinking about.  I don't judge them, but I often wonder what's beneath the surface.
Are they as unhappy as I am?  Is there pain and longing in their lives too?  I'm certain that the answers to these questions is yes, but what makes them go on with their lives?  What's the secret?  I read the posts of my Facebook friends, and I get so jealous.  Why does she have a love and I don't?  What gives that person a right to be so happy and have children and pets and a good job, when I know some of the darkest deeds they have committed?  When is it going to be my turn to find such fulfillment?
Am I undeserving of love?  Am I so undesirable, that no one can look at me?  Am I invisible?  I like to think that I am a good person.  Yet, day after day, I end up alone in my room pondering the mistakes that I've made, and listening to the voices in my head.  I have told myself that these voices are liars.  I know that I am not an ugly, stupid person with nothing to give.  I can feel my heart overflowing with the emotions that rage inside me.  I would be a wonderful wife, friend and lover.  I have something to give.  
But, what if I am just fooling myself and the voices are true.  Will I die alone?  Am I destined to be untouched by the warmth of a hand in mind or kissed with tenderness?  I honestly don't know.  I have tried to be friendly and courteous to people I meet.  I have shared smiles and flirted when I see an attractive man.  I have made casual conversation to other people in hopes of making a friendship connection.  But, nothing has come of it.
Sometimes, I think to myself, I will just go to a bar and pick up some stranger like a whore.  But, that's not what I want.  Besides, I am limited on what I can drink, and I don't really like bars.  Maybe I will go to a sports bar for the Superbowl.  I like football a lot, even though there are somethings I don't understand.  I could meet some people that way.  I could try one of those meet up sites where you find a group of people who share common interests.  
Sometimes, I think about going back to partial hospitalization just so I could have some people to talk to.  Yes, that's how lonely I am.  I have been spending a lot of my days living in my fantasy world.  It passes the time.  In my daydreams, I am beautiful, I am brilliant and I have a husband and six children.  My first pregnancy was quadruplets, twin girls and twin boys.  My second pregnancy resulted in twins also, a girl and a boy.  My husband and I want a very large family, so we are going to get pregnant again.  My name is Primrose, and my husband is Henry.  
Henry is tall, gentle, kind, athletic, funny, smart and loyal.  He thinks I am the most beautiful woman in the world.  We have fabulous sex.  It is tender, passionate and spontaneous.  We often get lost in each others eyes, tuning out the whole world.  Most people comment that they have never seen two people so in love.  Our children are very gifted and polite.  Victoria loves music. Lorelai loves to dance.  Jared likes to build things, and Darius just wants to fly.  The two youngest, Skylark and Sebastian love to paint and read.
Henry is a world renowned cardiothoracic surgeon, and Primrose is an astrophysicist.  She has been nominated for a Nobel Prize, and has worked with Stephen Hawking.  While they are very busy people, both enjoy spending as much time with the family as possible.  The do have two nannies and a housekeeper, and live in a 12 bedroom estate in the country.  There is a lake, a fountain and a glorious garden.  There is also a stable and barnyard.  They have 2 dogs, 2 cats and a bird.  
Sounds perfect doesn't it?  Well, it is.  That's why I spend so much time there.  I'd rather be there than here.  My world is cold, lonely and dark.  There, everyone is shiny and happy.  Sure, Primrose and Henry have disagreements, and the children misbehave, but it always works out in the end.  Not like real life where things can fall apart around you and your left standing by yourself feeling like a complete fool.
I've never told anyone about my fantasy life before.  I don't know why I am telling you now, except for the fact that I so want it to be true.  Is it the Cinderella complex?  I don't think so.  My other world is not magical, it's just happier and full of the things that I desire .   They say is you believe in a thing you can achieve it.  Well, I believe in love.  How long do I have to wait to achieve it?  Oh well, I guess I'll step into the real world for a moment.  I have to pee.  After that, a little time on the porch with Henry and the children as I have my cigarette.  I leave you all to lead your own lives, where ever they may be.  Peace, Joy, Love - B

Thursday, January 12, 2017

Depressive Episode #500




The past week has been a nightmare.  I am in a full blown depressive episode.  I sleep all the time, and when I am not sleeping, I am crying.  My mom says it's just post-holiday blues, but it's bigger than that.  I don't want to be here.  I wish I had never been born.
I am in physical pain as well as mental.  Every muscle in my body hurts.  My joints ache.  I wish I could just make the pain go away.  The only good thing is that I am not hallucinating.  I had to miss the first class of the new semester at school because I am basically non-functional.  I finally took a bath last night after 5 days of not bathing or brushing my teeth.  I have worn the same clothes for a week.  It just takes too much effort.
I am isolating like crazy.  I spend most of my time in my darkened room.  I have ventured out for meals and to talk and cry to my mom.  Other than that, I am alone.  I hate myself right now.  There is a group on Facebook for people with bipolar, so I've been posting there.  I have seen my therapist this week, and my doctor today.  There has been a medication change.  I go back to my therapist next week and my doctor in 2 weeks.  So much for being stable.
I saw my medical doctor this week also.  My diabetes is well managed, but I have an eye infection on top of everything else. So, I am on antibiotics until that clears up.  This downward spiral began at the end of November, and has just gotten worse.  There wasn't anything I could do about it because I was broke.  That's 3 months in a row I have mismanaged my money.  It's so stressing that it's making me sick.  I had a panic attack yesterday.  It took my mom a half hour to talk me down.  My aunt doesn't get it, so she's no comfort.
There are some days that I actually feel good.  But, they are few and far between.  I had wanted 2017 to start out on a really positive note, but that didn't happen.  Even when I visited my father, I was so depressed.  I isolated from him too.  I feel a lot of guilt about that.  All I did most of the time is sleep.
Once in a while, we went out to the store.  Mostly, we just stayed in because Michigan is so cold and windy, and we got snow.  The snow was nice.  
I applied for 2 part-time jobs online the other day.  I don't know why I did it, as I am in no way ready to work and go to school.  I have an assignment due tomorrow for my online class, but I don't have the book yet.  I had to order it.  I have no motivation to get it done anyway.  I really don't care at this point if I get a zero on it.  I'm too busy fighting for my life.
I haven't been to mass in 6 weeks.  I just feel like my spirit is dying.  I pray all the time, but I don't think God is listening to me right now.  I guess I am being punished.  I'll do my best to make it to Adoration tomorrow night, and mass this week.  I have to go to confession. I did commit a sin. I stole a bottle of laxatives from the store.  I wonder what my penance will be.  
I'm tired.  Just bone tired.  I don't know what to do anymore.  Suicide is not an option, but I think about it lately, which is never a good sign.  I'm not going to the hospital, that's all I know.  I've been here too many times to count, and have weathered the storms.  I guess I'll get through this one too. 
Peace, Joy, Love - B

Saturday, January 7, 2017

Diamonds on the Ground




The ground is sparkling
The air is still, except for the occasional rustling of the wind
The musical glass chimes sing their song
A song of winter and ice

The streets are quiet, noises cancelled by a blanket of white
People are still snuggled deep under the covers
Not stirring from the warmth of their beds
Breathing the soft air of sleep

The birds will be out soon
pecking the ground for signs of seed
A lucky few will find nourishment at the hands of humans
Bird feeders full to the brim

With the sun, comes the drip of melting ice
Plop, plop, plop on the ground outside the window
Some people will rise with the sun
Coffee brewing as they clean off their cars

The world will awaken and trod on the virgin snow
Dirty slush where the white purity used to be
The diamonds on the ground will fade
Melting away and leaving damp earth behind.





Peace, Joy, Love - B

Thursday, January 5, 2017

Smoke-filled Hazy Days and Charlie




Okay, the quitting smoking thing is hard.  I say that because I couldn't overcome my anxiety and went to buy a pack on my last day in Michigan.  My father, bless his heart, bought a whole carton for me.
I know  I could have said no thanks, but I couldn't. So, now I am just trying to limit myself to 6 cigarettes a day.  So far, I am not doing very well.  I feel a little bad about it, but at the same time I am relieved.  I will quit, I just don't know when.  I had announced my quit date as Jan. 3rd, but here it is the 5th and I am still puffing away.
Yesterday was a depressive day, so all I did was sleep and smoke.  Today, I feel much better, and am not so anxious.  I think, no I know I will be leaving the house this afternoon.  I have to get gas and go to Walmart to pick up some meds.  I may even actually comb my hair.  I know, big deal right?  Well considering I haven't washed my hair in 3 weeks it is a big deal.  Which reminds me, I need to call the salon for a cut.
I ran out of testing strips for my diabetes, so I haven't tested since yesterday morning. My sugar levels have been good, so I am not too concerned.  I need laxatives too.  I must confess, I am dependent on them.  I take 5 or 6 at night.  It does give me diarrhea the next morning, but it makes me feel so much lighter.  I hate feeling bloated.  I know I am probably doing damage to my colon, but I had a colonoscopy last January, and everything was normal.
I am going to try a chiropractor this month.  Hopefully, they have massage therapy too.  I could really use a deep tissue massage. I used to get them all the time, when I went to a chiropractor back in the '90s.  I would get a massage, drink a lot of water and take a hot shower.  I could feel all the toxins flushing out of my body.  My adjustments made me feel better too.  I carry all my tension in my shoulders and thoracic region of my back.  I think one good crack would do me quite well.
Oh well, that's all that's on my mind right now.  That and Keanu Reeves.  In my dreams, we meet on The View when I am a guest co-host because of my best selling book.  We really click, and he asks me to lunch.  Only problem is, I can't call him Keanu.  It makes me feel all starstruck, so I call him Charlie, since Charles is his middle name.  Anyway, he totally gets me.  He is gentle, kind, funny, doesn't freak out because of my bipolar, and really listens and talks to me.  Naturally, we fall in love and get married after a 2 year relationship.  We adopt 3 biracial siblings, have 2 dogs and a cat and live in Malibu and Michigan.  We are fixing up a Victorian townhouse in New York to be our main home.  The Malibu house was his, and the Michigan cottage was mine. Both of us are deliriously happy because we have been waiting so long to find someone special.  Stupid, isn't it?  But that's the dream that puts me to sleep at night.  It doesn't hurt anyone, so I'll just keep dreaming.  Peace, Joy, Love - B

Sunday, January 1, 2017

New Year's Day 2017




Well, it is the first day of a new year. I give a warm welcome to 2017, and a kick in the ass to 2016.  Not that I regret 2016. It just didn't start very well (depression) or end very well (depression).  Today, however, I woke up in a great mood and a ball of energy in my belly. Ah, the joys of being bipolar.  I don't know how the rest of the day will go, but I am determined to make it a good one.
I will not rehash the bad times of 2016, but will instead focus on the good things. Number 1, I lost 55 pounds!! Number 2, out of 4 courses I took in college this year, I got 3 A's and a C+.  The C+  was a computer science course. I would have done better, but all the tests were timed, and I don't do well in those situations.  Number 3, I became a card carrying catholic.  My faith is a little shaky right now, but I am praying for strength and guidance.  Number 4, I am now working with a volunteer organization called Speak for Animals.  I've been working with them on some marketing stuff. So far, it's very exciting and interesting.
As for 2017, there are a couple of big things I want to happen. I want to get on a stable medication regime.  I was feeling really normal for a while, but  things have started to get unsteady again.  I can't concentrate like I want to, and all I really want to do is sleep most of the time. I have a new semester starting on the 9th, so I need to get it together. Next thing I'd like to do is get a job so I can move out on my own.  This would enable me to get a pet and live my life the way I want. Maybe, I will make a few good friends, and even meet Mr. Right.  Of course, I know the last 2 things aren't really anything I can do to facilitate them.  I just have to do the best I can.  I will continue to do the best I can in school, and not strive for perfection.  I am taking 2 courses again, Nonprofit Admin: Human Resource Management, and an online course; Introduction to Art.  I hope both courses are interesting and that I do well.
Anyway, that is all for now.  Aside from the usual resolutions to get healthier and quit smoking, I have nothing else to report. I am still smoking, but I only have one pack left,and I think that will be it.
I'll let you know how everything goes. I am going to try to post more regularly to help clear my head.  I think I'll go take a shower now and get all squeaky clean. Peace, Joy, Love - B

Monday, December 19, 2016

Holiday Blues




It's been a while since my last blog.  I've been feeling a little lost.  My classes are over and I did well.  I got an A in both classes. I'm in Michigan at my dad's house. I thought I would feel better once I got out of South Carolina for a while, but I don't.  I've been sleeping a lot and isolating myself in the guest room.  Even the dog has failed to pick up my spirits.
I wrote out a proposal for my mom and aunt to get a cat and left it for them to read while I'm gone.  I attached articles about the benefit of having a pet, especially for the mentally ill.  I hope it gets approved.  Anyway,  I guess you're wondering why I had to go to such lengths.  I really don't know.  All I know is that I need something to love. I need to give affection and love to another living thing.  I've already given in to having a dog.  But a cat doesn't need to be walked. Don't get me wrong, I know a cat is just as much responsibility as a dog. But, a cat can pretty much entertain himself.  
I am looking for an older cat, loving,affectionate, and likes to cuddle. Plus, I want it to sleep with me. She/he will have access to the main living area during the day, but the litter box, food and water would be in my room.  That way she won't have to wander around the apartment at night.
All in all, I'd have to say 2016 was a successful year.  I completed a year of school, lost 55 pounds, and joined the catholic church. There are somethings that didn't happen;  I didn't find any friends to hang out with, I didn't meet my special someone. I guess there is just something about me that sends out a desperation pheromone. I have my family, but it is not enough. I am lonely. I am hungry for companionship. I don't know what to do. I am looking forward to next year, maybe things will be different. Maybe, I will make friends, and go on a date. Maybe my classes will be exciting. I will continue my healthy eating plan, and lose another 35 pounds.  I wish I loved myself today. Right now, I am full of self doubt, and anxiety. Maybe I will feel better after lunch, anyway that's all for now. I wish I had something more exciting to talk about. Until then, Peace, Joy, Love - B

Wednesday, November 16, 2016

Overdrawn...again



I'm overdrawn at the bank again.  This is only the second time in 3 years, but still I was overdrawn $161.00.  That is a big chunk of money for a person on disability.  That could have paid off one of my medical bills. or I could have used that money to by my medication.  I was out of almost everything, so I paid $107 for my medications today.  My insulin alone cost $56.  
Can someone please explain to me why medication costs so much?!  It's not like the drugs I take are new or somehow magical.  The patents on them are long expired, and all my drugs are generic because that's how my insurance works.   
So, I did get my check today, and I paid my bills.  I couldn't make my usual payments, and have to make sure I have enough money to get by until next month.  I may need to put out a may-day call to my dad for $100 to get by until then.  I'm maxed out on my MasterCard and Visa, too.  I had a couple of manic days and did some online shopping.  I had a lot of fun, and got some really nice stuff at a good sale price.  I don't regret any of my purchases, presents are bought, and I am set for fall and winter.  I bought clothes that will take me season to season without a problem and can be considered classic pieces.
I guess I'm just making excuses, trying to justify my bad judgment in handling my money.  I really need to find a part-time job when I get back from Michigan.  I don't know what to do.  I should try to get a job with a nonprofit, as that is my education major.  It can only be part-time, because I am very uncertain about my mental stability as far as trying to balance everything.  
I guess I should run it by my therapist, see what she thinks.  I've only been on my new medication cocktail for a month now.  I don't want to do too much too soon.  I'll have to think on it some more.
We should be getting a cost of living increase in 2017 for disability payments.  But, I am getting a supplemental medical policy that will cost me $45 a month.  It will pay for the co-pays etc., that Medicare doesn't pay.  Hopefully, it will be worth the money. 
I went to the OB/GYN last Wednesday about my cramping.  I was convinced something was happening to me, like I had uterine cancer.  Fortunately, everything turned out normal.  I may be cramping due to low back problems.  I have been having some sciatic nerve pain, but I didn't know the pains were related.  I will wait until January to see an orthopaedic doctor.  I've had 2 back surgeries, so I know how it's going to go. First, physical therapy, if that doesn't work cortisone shots, then after all that I'm back in the operating room.  I hope that medicine has advanced enough since 2001, that all this can be done on an outpatient basis.
What I really need is to win the sweepstakes.  Just $10,000 would help me out beyond measure.  Of course, I want to win the multi-million dollar prize.  But, I am trying to remain slightly realistic.
Oh well, I'll count my pennies and say my prayers.  God is my provider, so He'll make sure I have everything I need.  Peace, Joy, Love - B