Friday, May 20, 2016

Coffee, Cigarettes and Gandalf





I wrote several days ago about becoming smoke free.  So far it hasn't happened.  I went a whole day without cigarettes, only to find myself at the store buying a pack.  It will be my last pack I tell myself.  But then I run out of them, and it's back to the store.  I have prayed about it.  I have tried to talk myself out of it, but it's no use.  I have to have them with my coffee.  A day without coffee is just not going to happen.  I like smoking.  I like holding the cigarette in my hand.  I like inhaling and feeling the sting burn my tongue.
I am both physically and psychologically addicted.  I am also addicted to caffeine.  I love my coffee with cream and sweetener.  I use artificial sweetener because of the diabetes.  For that reason alone, I know I shouldn't smoke.  I'll probably end up with heart disease or having a heart attack or stroke.  What's my problem?  Why do I do this disgusting thing to myself? 
Frankly, smoking calms down my anxiety.  I would do anything to avoid an anxiety attack.  When I have one, I feel like I'm dying.  I have tried meditation, but I can't get my brain to stop whirling long enough to feel the effects.  That's one of the reasons I can't work right now.  I have the attention span of about an hour and a half.  That's why it's taking me so long to read a book.
I'm reading The Lord of the Rings; The Two Towers.  Ordinarily, I could polish that book off in 2 days.  It's been 2 weeks.  I want to read it now, but I am not in the right mood. I thought I was in the mood to exercise, but I could only do that for 10 minutes.  I got bored.  Right now, I would like some cheesecake, but can't for 2 reasons.  We don't have any, and I am on a low calorie diet. 
Great. I just got yelled at by my mom for ordering things from Publisher's Clearing house.  She yelled at me like I was 12.  It's my money, I spend it however I please.  I don't ask her for money for anything.  I pay my bills on time. WTF??I guess I will spend the rest of the day in my room with the door closed, because now I am ashamed and depressed.  Seems like no matter what I do there's no pleasing someone.  I'm always on somebodys nerves.  Just had to get some more coffee and a cigarette to get over that humiliation.  Why didn't I say anything?  What difference would it make.  I'm just a child in everyone's eyes. NO ONE in my family treats me like an adult.  I'll always be poor pitiful Bev, who must be looked after.  OK, fine! When I win my millions, don't look at me for help.  That's a lie.  The first thing I'll do if I win millions is share it with my family.  I guess I am a child.  A stupid little kid having a tantrum.  I'll open the packages some other time.  I mostly order gifts for other people anyway.  I guess I'm addicted to online shopping too.
I really hate shopping in stores.  Plus, when it's online it's nearly always available.  I ordered a Christmas ornament kit, and some books too.  It's not always stupid stuff.  I don't hear any complaints when I hand it out.  I am a giver.  I love to give things to people.  I like to see the looks on their faces when the open the box or hear reactions over the phone when they open the box.  OK, I guess I'll cut back on my shopping for now.
I miss my sister.  When she is around, I always feel good,  She is a good talker and listener.  She was here for my 50th birthday last year.  It was great.  She's an extrovert.  Not like me at all,  I kinda like to observe, she goes out and does. I have an overwhelming feeling to see my dad,  He doesn't judge me or criticize me.  I love being with him.  Maybe I should go see him.  Or is that just an escapism reaction to my mother's harsh words.  Father's Day is next month.  My summer classes are online so I could do the assignments up there.  It wouldn't be a big deal. 
I feel so stupid right now.  Guilt and shame have crept into my brain and I have a knot in my stomach.  I want to take my pills and go to bed.  I love bedtime.  Maybe I should pray the Rosary.  Maybe that will help me feel better.  Oh the glories of being bipolar!!!  Every minute a different mood.  Why do a few words cut me to the quick?  Why do I let them?  I wish I could talk to Mary.  Mary is my therapist.  She would put me to rights. I think I'll go to bed at 5 PM, it's only 3:25PM now.  The blog has me on pacific time.  I don't know how to change it.
I wrote a letter to my Uncle Steve this week.  He lives in Texas.  It wasn't much, just a check in since he doesn't call much.  Nobody calls anymore unless we are planning something or someone is sick.  OK, this is getting ridiculous.  I am about to start crying.  I think I'll end now, and read for a while.  Maybe Gandalf can take me away from myself for a while.  I don't think I'll be able to sleep now anyway.  Too much coffee and cigarettes.   
Peace, Love, Joy - Bev 

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